Well, the last two weeks have been a blur. They were a combination of school hitting its stride and my husband going out of town for a week. As a mom, especially, a working mom, you come to respect sleep deprivation as a very real form of torture. Even my teeth ached. So many tears, literal and figurative spilt milks, and a vet visit, just for fun. These are the times that make me believe baby shower cards are a pack of lies!
Even I’ve scrawled it on a lot of cards for new moms: “Enjoy every moment.” I write it with all sincerity. I think what happens is that when I consider a new mom, surrounded by tiny clothes and sweet smelling lotions, I too get caught up in the wonder of a new life. I get excited for the moments wherein she’ll just stare in wonder at the fact that she made a human and marvel at just how minute and fresh her new baby is. And so, I wistfully, almost jealously, write to new moms, “Enjoy every moment.”
Because I’ve come to realize that kids’ months and years work almost like dog years…seven years to one of ours. Just yesterday, I found the little onesie with the rocket ships that Bear wore home from the hospital. I laid it on his big, almost eight month old body, and it looked like a pocket. It is already so hard to believe he was once that small.
Still, what mom has ever enjoyed every moment? It’s not like you’re elbow deep in poop with another kid screaming in the background, thinking “I’m really going to savor this.” No. It’s only in fiction that life presents us with solely enjoyable moments.
However, there are moments of pure joy. On Friday, Fox presented me with a pan of dirt and said, “I baked a cake for ya, Mama!” I see little nubs of top bunny teeth popping out on my Bear. They are warm, soft, adorable human beings and they are mine! I carried them for nine months, fed them from my own body, and will never stop marveling at their unfurling.
However, next time I write in a card for someone’s baby shower or marriage or any other life milestone, I won’t be writing “Enjoy every moment.” That’s asking the impossible. Instead, I will offer “Enjoy the right moments.” Because there are plenty of those.